Happy International Women’s Day: Introducing the Female Condom!

I figured I’d celebrate this day by highlighting a trending and important way to protect women from sexually transmitted infections, including HIV/AIDs–the female condom.

Below is a post from my physician friend, Dr. Renee Matthews, who appeared on the Tom Joyner Morning Radio Show this morning and helps to spread the good word about proper use and importance of prevention.



Did You Know There Is A Female Condom That Is FDA Approved On The Market?

There are lots of different ways to practice “Safe Sex”. The term safe sex primarily refers to protection against sexually transmitted diseases. Most people believe that this is the responsibility of the man. Well, back in 2005 the first version of the female condom was on the market. This was the first time a barrier method of contraception was for women. FC2 came out in 2009 and it is made with nitrile. This material is natural feeling and warms to body temperature.

3 Reasons to use FC2

  1. One of the reasons to use FC2 is because we as women should take control of our sexual health. The female condom also protects better against Human Papilloma Virus and Herpes Simplex Virus because of the way it protects the outside of the vagina, including the labia minora and labia majora compared to the male condom.
  2. There is a trend that is probably not so new, but now has a term called stealthing. Stealthing is the non-consensual condom removal or “stealthing” is the practice of one sex partner covertly removing a condom, when consent has only been given by the other sex partner for condom-protected safer sex.
  3. Most men do not like using male condoms but don’t mind the female condom because it doesn’t feel different. One size fits all with FC2 so it doesn’t matter what size the man’s penis. FC2 can be placed 2 hours prior to sexual intercourse so it does not interfere with intimacy. It is latex free and can be used with oil and water based lubricants.



Many women still do not know about the FDA approved female condom known as FC2. There are several ways to acquire these condoms. The women of South Africa have been using the female condom with great results. After one year of the female condom program in South Africa protected sex acts went up 92% and 74% of men felt that female condom was either better or much better than the male condom. Please visit their website FC2.com for information on where and how you can purchase FC2.

If you have health insurance there is a good chance that you will be able to receive FC2 for FREE! Please download Hey Doctor App and use Promo Code: FC2 and you can have the condoms mailed to you or sent to your local pharmacy. Currently these are the states where Hey Doctor is available, AK, AZ, CA, CT, FL, GA, IL, IN, KY, MO, MT, NE, NY, NC, OH, OR, PA, RI, SC, TN, TX, VT, VA, WA, WI and WY (more states coming soon).



Dr. Renee Matthews is the social media doctor, prescribing remedies to help you to live the life you deserve. She has appeared on television shows such as, The Oprah Winfrey Show and TVOne’s NewsOne Now with Roland Martin where she discussed different health topics. She started her media career with her own radio show on SiriusXM/ReachMD, a programming source for health professionals. In addition, Dr. Renee has been a featured medical correspondent on SiriusXM’s Sway in the Morning and Café Mocha Radio with Loni Love and YoYo (syndicated radio show).

Dr. Renee hosts The Ask Dr. Renee Show, a weekly YouTube show to motivate and inspire viewers to “Live the life they deserve”. Dr. Renee is also the host of Out of Office with Dr. Renee which is apart of Outcome Health and seen in 45,0000+ doctors offices across the US. She is a regular correspondent for HuffPostLive.com and a regular writer for Good Enough Mother, and DiaryofaFirstTimeMom. Dr. Renee has been a contributing health writer for MadameNoire.com, BlackandMarriedwithKids.com, BlackDoctor.org, DiaryofaFirstTimemom.com and GoodEnoughMother.com. She is also a sought after speaker for various health organizations and schools. In addition to writing about health, Dr. Renee is a social media coach, conducts speaking engagements on social media, branding, motivation, and becoming an entrepreneur. Visit her at Ask Dr. Renee








BougieMama blog shares my 5 Tips on NOT becoming Superwoman. Check it out.

5 Tips on being a superwoman without becoming SUPERWOMAN

February 25, 2018

Dr. Nicole Swiner

If you’re a working woman, Mom and/or wife, someone is getting your nerves right at this very moment—your kids, hubby, Mother-in-law, employer, employees, Deaconess—someone. But, if you’re like most of us, you’ve allowed him or her or them to bother you with their issues. The kids need you to pick out their outfits and pick up after them. Your husband or your partner needs you to fix dinner and iron his or her shirt for work. Your staff needs all of their vacation hours approved right now! When is it your time?

Our job doesn’t end with our 9-to-5, does it? The days are never-ending, seemingly, and there’s never enough time in the day.

Welcome to the acknowledgement that you’re a Superwoman. This is your Superwoman Complex world, and I’m your host, DocSwiner—another Superwoman in rehab, herself.

Let’s dive into how we’re going to fix this.

Chapter 1-Tip 1: Get Out of Your Own Way!

We’re killing it. We’re rocking it. All day. Everyday. I see you superwoman—handling your business as the Mistress of your household if you’re a stay-at-home Mom. I also see you if you’re working outside of the home, juggling family obligations, extracurricular activities and trying to stay fit and sane.

Well, enough is enough. Stop doubting yourself. If you sit down, get quiet and write out a business plan or chapter outline, or go outside to start walk/jogging, you can get it done. Don’t jeopardize your own goals because you’re taking care of everyone else’s. Get out of your own way by literally scheduling in your quiet or work out time. It should go on a calendar weekly or monthly, just like everyone else’s doctors’ appointments and games do. I’m here to tell you to stop self-sabotaging and just get started.

 Chapter 2-Tip 2: There’s No Time Like the Present

So, now that you’ve made the decision to make time for you to accomplish that goal, the next question is “When am I supposed to do it?” The truth is that it rarely feels like the “right time.” So, why not start now? Don’t wait. Start that business you’ve always dreamed of, leave that job, change that habit, write that book, or finish that degree.

Time and money will always be obstacles. As time passes and we get older, we tend to have more and more familial and financial obligations. I’m not sure there’s ever a perfect time to take that leap. For me, when I decided to write my first book, I didn’t have the whole amount needed saved at the time. I chose to do a campaign online and asked for donations from my followers and family. It worked like a charm and kept me motivated to continue writing as the donations poured in. In 3 months, I was ready to launch the book. 3-6months prior to that, I wasn’t sure it was the right time. However, I believed, had the faith, and took the first step.

 Chapter 3-Tip 3: “No” is a Complete Sentence

We-especially those of us that are caretakers, wives or mothers-often have a difficult time saying no to those we love and care about. But, it’s necessary. Nay, it’s lifesaving. We work our fingers to the bone at work and at home, and of what’s left of us someone is always willing to take. Don’t let them do it.

As an act of self-preservation, I am encouraged to say no more and set boundaries. I no longer allow patients to have access to me via social media after work hours. I am much less likely to teach a skill or give my professional advice without the other person putting their “skin in the game,” too. My time and opinions are valuable, as well. I’m worth something and so are you. Let’s stop giving ourselves away all the time, for free. I’ll keep working on it, if you promise to keep working on it, too.

Chapter 4-Tip 4: Frenemies are Not Your Friends

I love and hate this topic. I thought that jealousy and envy improved after high school and college. But alas, they continue to rear their ugly heads well into adulthood, and jealousy and envy disguise themselves in different ways. The sayings “let the haters hate” and even worse, “haters gon’ hate” are a few of my pet peeves that are used commonly. This is mostly because many of these haters that we speak of, are part of inner circle or on our friend lists. Why do we allow it to happen?

I heard a couple of friends talk about this on social media recently. They said they’d encountered some soul suckers and energy vultures in their midst. Geez! Stay away, toxic folks. Get those kind of people out of your environment. Shooo, fly, shoo!

Chapter 5-Tip 5: Admit it. You Hate Your Job

When I wrote my first book, “How to Avoid the Superwoman Complex: 12 Ways to Balance Mind, Body & Spirit,” I was rounding out my eighth year of working full time as a family doctor. I was having fun seeing patients all day long, but not so much fun managing hours of insurance-related paperwork and phone calls, which is not taught in medical school or residency – doctors learn the ins-and-outs of business once we start working in the real world. So, I had to get creative to prevent “burn-out.” That’s when I started writing and doing things like this.

With that, I’ll add this: If you hate your job, change it. Shorten or change your work schedule. Ask for a promotion or demotion to a different department. Ask for a change of duties or responsibilities. Or get another job or change careers. Are these changes always easy? Nope. But, is it true that it may be worth your sanity? Absolutely. If you can’t leave your job right now, how about creating a “side hustle;” a “side-gig, ” if you will? If you’re really successful, maybe it becomes your real gig. It could save your sanity as well, because it’ll allow you to do more things you love and are passionate about—like how I am, now, about this.

Be blessed,



Dr. Swiner is a family medicine/general medicine expert, covering a broad spectrum of both medical and mental health issues. As a wife and mother of two, she uses real-life experiences to clearly communicate keys to better health and wellness for mind, body and spirit.  Check out her website and book to learn more.

It’s not too late to celebrate Valentine’s: 4 reasons to do it at Morehead Manor :)

Hubby and I love to travel and have stayed in hotels, resorts, rental home and Air BNBs. However, we were blessed with the opportunity to visit our very first, certified Bed & Breakfast at Morehead Manor here in Durham, NC. We did on the weekend right before Valentine’s Day as our overnight date night. If you didn’t properly celebrate love this month, alone or with a loved one, here are 5 reasons why you need to consider Morehead Manor in your plans:

  1. The refrigerator: Sounds crazy, right? But, I’m a fan of vintage, and the fridge pictured below caught my attention immediately. Monica, the owner of the 108+ year old home and B&B, noted it was the original one bought for the home in the early 1900s. It was also stocked full of glass jars of water, drinks and adult beverages to quench your night time thirst.
  2. The owners: Monica and her husband, Daniel Edwards, are as warm and inviting as their Inn. Daniel greeted us outside to lead us in, and Ms. Monica greeted us at the door and walked us around. She did turn down service with a cute bear and Valentine’s Day card and cooked breakfast and prepared coffee by herself that next morning. It felt like being home with family.
  3. The big ol’ bed: The bed in our suite was huge, king-sized and comfy. Monica joked that we could use its overhead lights for reading or other extra-curricular activities. We were so exhausted after hanging out at our fave near-by spots in Durham with friends (Gonza Taco and Tequila and drinks at Unscripted Hotel) that we plopped down to sleep after returning and slept in nice and late the next morning. It was heavenly.
  4. The breakfast: Monica needs to moonlight as a chef, because the cream-cheese filled french toast and toppings with sausage were to die for. We sat together and chatted while I ate about the history of the house, her journey as an entrepreneur here in the Bull City and her most interesting guests that she’s experienced. Over breakfast, where I cleaned my entire plate, we agreed that she was indeed in the right business and that she needs to write a book about her most hilarious moments as an innkeeper.

Overall, a very enjoyable time, and we’d definitely return for a romantic getaway. Although, down the street, it felt like home.


PS. Tell them we sent ya. Here’s the website: moreheadmanor.com, and they often add last minute specials and new packages on their Facebook page, https://www.facebook.com/MoreheadManor/




My 1st contribution to Reader’s Digest: This Is How Doctors Keep Their New Year’s Resolutions

Sunkissed features us on the importance of women connecting & self-care……

Praises to @bianqabiz for her feature of our event on her blog, Sunkissed. Follow her blog site at sunkissedvibe.com


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I had the wonderful honor of helping @thegirlfriendspod host Doc Swiner third annual New Year New You 2018 event!

I was truly blessed to meet so many great people and hear from some amazing girl bosses

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vegan juice blends

one of the highlights was getting a yummy shot of raw fruit and veggie goodness. hard not to enjoy one of Rich Happy Healthy Life delicious vegan juice blends.
red juice: red grapes + purple cabbage + watermelon
my fav >>> orange juice: pineapple + orange + carrot
green juice: kale + cukes + lime + ginger + green apples

Making Life Sweeter One Bath at a Time!

Making Life Sweeter One Bath at a Time!

Just Like Kandy handcraft natural bath and body products are to die for! Delicious scents like black vanilla and ginger peach. their products will have your skin hydrated and glowing in no time. besides, who doesn’t love a good bath bomb?




top 3 tips from @docswiner:

1. sleep – always get at least 6 hours nightly
2. massage – pamper yourself. your body supports you all day every day, show it a little tlc with a full body massage
3. love – love yourself first, then share your love with others


Get a head start with the SuperWoman Survival Kit – a monthly self care swag box by Doc Swiner

The Lux Blog highlights New Year New You 2018

Thanks to Kimberly Knight and The Lux Blog NC for being our special guest and blogging about our event. Follow her blog at http://www.theluxblognc.com as well. Enjoy!


Third Time’s A Charm: DocSwiner’s New Year New You Brunch Recap

Written By: Kimberly M. Knight

Editor’s Note: 

We at The Lux Blog wish continued success to DocSwiner and thank you for inviting us.

Happy Friday Luvs!

It’s 2018! I still can’t believe its actually 2018. This is a time of year to reflect and to create a plan of action. This is when you hear about New Year’s Resolutions, new businesses, vision board parties, or empowering networking events. On January 6th, I had the opportunity to attend Dr. C. Nicole Swiner’s “New Year New You” Brunch! This year they celebrated 3 years of success and I met so many amazing women entrepreneurs. Including hosts the vibrant millennials of The Girlfriends Pod, a safe space and social space for southern Black women. DJ Big Fella made his event debut and the music set a chill, neo-soul type of vibe. I met wine expert Adrian Lindsay who provided wine samples of delicious white and red wines. The audience was able to have an intimate Q&A session during the sampling and we learned about Oak City Wine Syndicate wine club. The delicious brunch edibles were provided by Full Street Wings Cafe! My personal favorite was the fruit platter. Plus, I love seeing my favorite mobile bar service, Toast it Up, LLC, because they make the best mimosas. We engaged in entertaining “Elevator Pitch” segments to hear about other women business owners in the room and guests received tons of great giveaways. This is included DocSwiner’s Superwoman Survival Kit which featured local businesses and points on self-care.

The event featured Keynote Speaker and Fox 35 Journalist Kimberly Wiggins who gave an inspiring speech about perseverance through life’s challenges. She became a widow at 35 years old after losing her husband of 12 years to a fatal car accident. She’s taken that tragic experience and created Still His, a faith-based, retail grief organization to assist other widows. It was an enlightening experience for me to hear her story and to see how much passion she shared. It was almost like looking in a mirror because for the past 5 years I’ve been speaking publicly about my widow’s story. It was just the right dash of inspiration we all needed to see that no matter the circumstance there are options to move in positive light because we all need time to heal.

There were amazing vendors, guests, and the best part was networking with other fellow entrepreneurs. So what’s next for DocSwiner? I had a chance to chat with the good doctor on her business moves for 2018.

How does it feel to have your 3rd year of New Year New You?

I’m on a high today. This was a different format. It was smaller, more intimate so I was able to enjoy myself a little bit more. When you have so many speakers and vendors you have to be everywhere. So this time I was able to enjoy more.

What was your favorite highlight of the event?

The elevator pitch contest for sure and I’ve been thinking about it for awhile now. When it’s on a larger scale it’s harder to do. So I’m glad we had a smaller crowd this time so everyone could feel involved.

What’s next for DocSwiner?

I want to broaden the idea of not being a superwoman and self-care naturally. I’m starting the self-care subscription box, Superwoman Survival Kit, and for those interested in becoming self-published I have an online course.

Stay in Touch with DocSwiner:  @DocSwiner – Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter


To learn more about Keynote Speaker Kimberly Wiggins: 


Welcome to 2018! I turn 40 this year!

newyearnewyou2018-2newyearnewyou2018-3newyearnewyou2018-1I’m fresh off the heels of my annual women’s event, New Year New You 2018, from this past weekend, and I’m still smiling from ear to ear.

This year’s event almost didn’t happen. Last year, with planning, funding, snowstorms and management of people and their personalities, I was burned out. I told the team “We’re taking a year off.” But, then multiple women started reaching out. After 2 years, they had become accustomed to the idea of getting together, in a room, with up and coming lady bosses, doing new and phenomenal things in life, business, work and career and enjoyed the camaraderie, support and new ideas that spring from a meeting like this. So, I said, “ok,” but we’re going to do it differently this year—-less stressful and more intimate. More meat, less frill. And, we had a blast.

I’m going to bring that attitude with me in 2018. More meat, less frill. More bang for my buck. Work smart, not hard…and all the other clichés.

I chose the theme of RESILIENCE for this year’s event and for good reason. Webster defines resilience as “the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness: the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.” I see it as not giving up, despite adversity. Bouncing back after loss or disappointment. We dove into this deeply during the conference and shared our stories to uplift one another.

Take this with you into the new year as you deal with challenges, and apply to this to life’s past difficulties.

As you probably know, I preach about the killing of the superwoman complex, to help working women and mothers establish balance by focusing on self-care, selfishness and self-love. It’s life saving….literally. By giving women the permission to take time out for themselves, we’ve been able to cut down on treatment of high blood pressure, diabetes, depression and anxiety. And, the stress….oh, the stress of these recent years.

Discrimination is linked to stress.

Hating your job is linked to stress.

The #MeToo movement, although necessary and important, caused stress.

Political issues are linked to stress.

We have to kill the stress before it kills us.

As I prepare to turn 40 in April, I remind myself of my journey through my 20s and 30s. I’m a much stronger, wiser me now. I stand up for myself more and demand more respect, from my patients, staff, friends and colleagues. If I want it, I plan it out and go get it. And regarding resilience, I face rejection and failure head on, and either move forward and not let it hold me back or confront it and deal with it. No more passivity in 2018. I’m a real “grown woman” now.

And in the room, at the conference, I saw mirror images of both my former and current self: fellow “superwomen in recovery,” following our 12 steps together. In that room, I saw doctors, lawyers, entrepreneurs, mothers, caretakers and more, but more importantly, I saw women. Strong, yet delicate. Independent, yet vulnerable. Battered, but resilient.

My hope for you this year, and for myself in my 40th year, is that you leave with new connections, refreshed energy and exciting ideas to improve your self-care, work-life balance and mental health. Turn your past challenges into opportunities to affect change. I hope you are also encouraged to start a new business venture or improve your current business model.

Women, particularly women of color, hold this world up. We shape shift and codeswitch and make stuff happen—in our homes, at work, in politics and in our environment. We have been hurt by past relationships, family members, employers and coworkers and let down by our government. But through it all, we persevere and move forward. And for that, I, for one, am proud to be a superwoman. Cheers to you in 2018, and happy 40th to me.





1. I’m offering free 15min. sessions, for January 2018 only, at www.calendly.com/docswiner/15min

2. I have also begun a monthly self-care subscription box program, called the Superwoman Survival Kit-$20/month with goodies, monthly meet ups with me on FB and quarterly one-on-ones. Sign up here: bit.ly/superwomansurvivalkit